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Do you want to create an extraordinary life, filled with true love, happiness and fulfilment?

Then my friends, you’ve come to the right place! Forgetting Fairytales is a Specialist Breakup, Dating and Relationship blog that focuses on helping you become the person you really want to be and attract (then keep!) the love you really deserve.

It’s about becoming the happiest, most confident version of yourself, finding the person who’s genuinely right for you, and then building a meaningful, long-lasting relationship that will grow with you, as you do.

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See, you’re not a “damsel”, you don’t need “rescuing” and if you’re waiting for that perfect “Prince Charming” or “Princess”, well, you’ll probably be waiting for a while.

Perfect people don’t exist. People who are pretty much perfect for you, well… that’s more like it. That’s within reach. But it’s not a given. And here at Forgetting Fairytales, we’re not prepared to leave it down to chance.

See, you can have that “happily ever after” that you’ve always dreamed of. You can write the love story you really want and deserve. But it all starts with you. So whether you’re…

Single…

It’s about getting you through a breakup, helping you to heal, making sure you’ve dealt with any past issues or limiting beliefs. We then want you to reach the point of being happily single, learning to not only survive but THRIVE on your own! We want you to start living your life to the absolute full and making the most of your freedom… which means doing all the things you want to do (and more!) You shouldn’t be desperately searching for someone to ‘complete you.’ This time should be all about you, your journey of self-discovery and a huge stage of growth. So get ready for some major breakthroughs!

Dating…

When you’re ready to start thinking about meeting someone new, we’re going to be right by your side! We’ll help you to learn from your past relationships, use it to figure out the kind of person you’re looking for now, and help you to become the person you not only need to be – but know that you really are. There will be dating tips, dating advice – literally everything you need and more to get through the trials and tribulations of dating in the twenty first century… and actually end up enjoying it! There’s just one rule: to never settle. In fact, by the end of it, I guarantee you will find ‘true love’ – just without all the cliches.

In a Relationship…

Moving onto relationships – it’s time to make them everything you’ve ever wanted and more. No-ones perfect, just like no relationship is either. But it’s about facing challenges together, working through any issues and learning & growing as a couple. We want to expand your knowledge, help you to become the best partner that you can be & build the deepest, most fulfilling relationship with the right person. And if it turns out you’re in the wrong relationship, well… we’ll give you the courage and confidence to walk away and start afresh, knowing it was the right thing to do. So don’t be afraid, get excited!

MEET THE FOUNDER OF FORGETTING FAIRYTALES…

Hi, I’m Ell. So now we’ve got the blog concept out the way, I thought I’d use this space to share a little more about me, how I got to where I am today and why I’m so passionate about what I do. I don’t want you to just be able to “put a face to a name”, but really feel like you know me, know that I care about you, and know that you’re not alone.

My Story - Ella Stearn

See I’ve always loved all things love! Growing up, I would swirl around in my Princess dresses, dreaming of that “happily ever after.” The thing is, real life hit hard for me…

At the age of fifteen, I was assaulted by the person who I thought was my first true love. It was a huge trauma that forced me to hit rock bottom, questioning everyone and everything; triggering complex-PTSD as a result.

I then got into my first serious relationship at sixteen, hoping to heal, only for it to break down two years down the line, finding out he’d also cheated on me. Brilliant. A real kick in the stomach. 

By nineteen then, I thought my luck was turning… I met a man who I thought would finally make me feel whole again. I got engaged at twenty two, was planning my dream wedding set to be married by twenty five and truly felt ready to settle down.

Only it didn’t get that far… because my hopes were ripped apart, I discovered just lie after lie and was forced to walk away, calling off the engagement, stopping all wedding plans and having to re-build myself once more. 

See I’ve always loved all things love! Growing up, I would swirl around in my Princess dresses, dreaming of that “happily ever after.” The thing is, real life hit hard for me…

At the age of fifteen, I was assaulted by the person who I thought was my first true love. It was a huge trauma that forced me to hit rock bottom, questioning everyone and everything; triggering complex-PTSD as a result.

I then got into my first serious relationship at sixteen, hoping to heal, only for it to break down two years down the line, finding out he’d also cheated on me. Brilliant. A real kick in the stomach. 

By nineteen then, I thought my luck was turning… I met a man who I thought would finally make me feel whole again. I got engaged at twenty two, was planning my dream wedding set to be married by twenty five and truly felt ready to settle down.

Only it didn’t get that far… because my hopes were ripped apart, I discovered just lie after lie and was forced to walk away, calling off the engagement, stopping all wedding plans and having to re-build myself once more. 

Ella Stearn, Founder of Forgetting Fairytales

Uh huh, epic sob story, I know… But actually, I don’t feel sad about this. I feel at peace with it. And I truly believe that you can come out of ANYTHING, in a far stronger and happier position…


“Everything that’s happened has only helped to shape me into the woman I am today. I have turned my past struggles into strength. I’ve discovered my life purpose. And now, I am lucky enough to be living it…

— Ell, Founder of Forgetting Fairytales

WHAT HAPPENED NEXT…

See, I didn’t want anyone to ever feel as broken or alone as I once did. I also hated how helpless I felt, how powerless and vulnerable. So I completely immersed myself in learning the depths of breakups, dating and relationships – the key challenges, the psychology that is all linked in with it, but most importantly, the solutions: what you can do.

I read books, I worked out key strategies, I developed fundamental processes and -just to cover all areas– gained coaching qualifications. (Because I knew I wanted to do everything that I could, to be fully equipped in helping other people too.)

In 2020, I launched Forgetting Fairytales, with the mission of helping you to “learn to love yourself, find the right person to give your love to, and then make it a love that lasts…” Since then it has grown to over 280,000 monthly readers, now reaching over 3.36 MILLION people every year. (And trust me when I say – I am thankful for every single one of you!)

To date, I’ve written over 360+ articles, helping over 7.5 million people, completely free of charge.

I also work privately, one-to-one with hundreds of coaching clients all over the world, to resolve some the most challenging breakup, dating & relationship related issues. And I genuinely think there’s no better job in the world.

See, as the old quote says, “you can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you choose to see it, and how you respond…” And there’s so much power in that.

Personal Coach Credentials:

I am a fully-trained Strategic Intervention Coach, well equipped to create fast, long-lasting results when it comes to yourself and your love life.

I have a Coaching & Mentoring Qualification with the Institute of Counselling. I also completed additional coach training at Robbins-Madanes Training under my teachers (the legendary!) Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes.

BUT WHERE’S MY LOVE STORY AT NOW, IN ALL OF THIS?

WELL IT JUST SO HAPPENS THAT I FOUND MY “PRINCE CHARMING” AFTER ALL…

We met by chance, as complete strangers. But there was an instant connection from the moment we laid eyes on each other.

Forgetting Fairytales

We got eye contact & couldn’t help but keep looking over. In fact, it was literally like what you see in the movies… Girl looks over. Boy looks over. Girl looks away. Girl looks back. Boy‘s still looking.

This carried on a little bit, until we were both laughing and Adam then came over to speak to me. We clicked straight away, really hit it off, and the rest is pretty much history from there!

The beautiful thing is – I met Adam at a time where I was not even looking for love. And yet my love has grown into the truest, purest and strongest love I have ever felt before.

I am now in the happiest, healthiest relationship – the kind of relationship I would have once only dreamed of and I honestly couldn’t be more thankful.

BUT WHERE’S MY LOVE STORY AT NOW, IN ALL OF THIS?

WELL IT JUST SO HAPPENS THAT I FOUND MY “PRINCE CHARMING” AFTER ALL…

Forgetting Fairytales

We met by chance, as complete strangers. But there was an instant connection from the moment we laid eyes on each other. We got eye contact & couldn’t help but keep looking over. In fact, it was literally like what you see in the movies…

Girl looks over. Boy looks over. Girl looks away. Girl looks back. Boy‘s still looking.

This carried on a little bit, until we were both laughing and Adam then came over to speak to me. We clicked straight away, really hit it off, and the rest is pretty much history from there!

The beautiful thing is – I met Adam at a time where I was not even looking for love. And yet my love has grown into the truest, purest and strongest love I have ever felt before.

I am now in the happiest, healthiest relationship – the kind of relationship I would have once only dreamed of and I honestly couldn’t be more thankful.